How To Feel Good 101
Recently I was just studying about why do we feel sadness and longing for a person. You might've experienced it in the form of heartbreaks, failures, rejection, etc. So here's my guide on how I survive through sadness.
See, we are hormone junkies. We love oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins, and dopamine. These are some hormones which are secreted while we're in love, take drugs, achieve goals etc. So when you go through a breakup/lose a dream etc. these hormones aren't secreted by the brain.
And hence, it starts panicking. We look for escapism. We go towards alcohol, we crave for drugs, do anything for achieving your dream, beg in front of ex-lovers to take us back etc. Our brain tricks us into doing things which we would never do in normal situations. That's why we end up taking bad decisions and feel sad.
But there's a way to deal with sadness. We can replace our routine activities with tasks which release these hormones in our brain. For instance, our brain releases endorphins after working out, which makes us feel good. It is the same feeling after achieving some short term goal.
Similar situation is with oxytocin. Oxytocin is the love hormone. It is released while we talk to our partners. After breakup, there's a lack of oxytocin release. But hey, you can talk to your old friends or parents. It also has the same effect which releases the 'love' chemical. Best thing, do charity. Give your love without selfish motives to the needy.. Trust me, you'll feel content.
Serotonin and dopamine are 2 other chemicals. They're related to happiness, long term and short term achievements. Of these two, generally Serotonin is considered as more useful and productive secretion. Dopamine is rather a short-term animalistic pleasure hormone. We get dopamine by likes on social media, eating, sex etc.
Whereas, serotonin is more related to sense of achievement. You can work on a new hobby/skill. As and when you see progress, your brain automatically witnesses serotonin secretion and you feel happy.
So, if you're going through a bad breakup or have seen your career dream breaking in front of your eyes; just look at it from a more practical perspective. Try to find a physical activity (such as gym/sport) for endorphin, try to connect with your friends and family for oxytocin, pick a new habit (learn new language, career path etc) for dopamine and serotonin. And believe me, it works.
Instead of going towards alcohol/drugs/one-night stands... try to deal with it naturally. In this way, you'll come out strong, mature, and will have a chiseled body as well as a new skill. :)
PS: I'm trying to help some kids.. whenever i feel sad, i think of them. They give me a purpose in life. There's nothing wrong in being single. If you want to spread love, why not give it to the ones who need the most?!
Till the next time :)
Satyam.
Idk how, but my blog is getting readers even though I haven't used SEO or promotion.. So, I'll try to be more reguar from now..
You can connect with me on my Instagram handle - tensorslow.
See, we are hormone junkies. We love oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins, and dopamine. These are some hormones which are secreted while we're in love, take drugs, achieve goals etc. So when you go through a breakup/lose a dream etc. these hormones aren't secreted by the brain.
And hence, it starts panicking. We look for escapism. We go towards alcohol, we crave for drugs, do anything for achieving your dream, beg in front of ex-lovers to take us back etc. Our brain tricks us into doing things which we would never do in normal situations. That's why we end up taking bad decisions and feel sad.
But there's a way to deal with sadness. We can replace our routine activities with tasks which release these hormones in our brain. For instance, our brain releases endorphins after working out, which makes us feel good. It is the same feeling after achieving some short term goal.
Similar situation is with oxytocin. Oxytocin is the love hormone. It is released while we talk to our partners. After breakup, there's a lack of oxytocin release. But hey, you can talk to your old friends or parents. It also has the same effect which releases the 'love' chemical. Best thing, do charity. Give your love without selfish motives to the needy.. Trust me, you'll feel content.
Serotonin and dopamine are 2 other chemicals. They're related to happiness, long term and short term achievements. Of these two, generally Serotonin is considered as more useful and productive secretion. Dopamine is rather a short-term animalistic pleasure hormone. We get dopamine by likes on social media, eating, sex etc.
Whereas, serotonin is more related to sense of achievement. You can work on a new hobby/skill. As and when you see progress, your brain automatically witnesses serotonin secretion and you feel happy.
So, if you're going through a bad breakup or have seen your career dream breaking in front of your eyes; just look at it from a more practical perspective. Try to find a physical activity (such as gym/sport) for endorphin, try to connect with your friends and family for oxytocin, pick a new habit (learn new language, career path etc) for dopamine and serotonin. And believe me, it works.
Instead of going towards alcohol/drugs/one-night stands... try to deal with it naturally. In this way, you'll come out strong, mature, and will have a chiseled body as well as a new skill. :)
PS: I'm trying to help some kids.. whenever i feel sad, i think of them. They give me a purpose in life. There's nothing wrong in being single. If you want to spread love, why not give it to the ones who need the most?!
Satyam.
Idk how, but my blog is getting readers even though I haven't used SEO or promotion.. So, I'll try to be more reguar from now..
You can connect with me on my Instagram handle - tensorslow.
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